Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World (Hardcover)
It’s time to say NO to trying to fit square-peg kids into rounds holes, and YES to raising them from a place of acceptance and joy.
Today millions of kids are stuck in a world that doesn’t embrace who they really are. They are the one in five “differently wired” children with ADHD, dyslexia, giftedness, autism, anxiety, or other neurodifferences, and their challenges are many. And for the parents who love them, the challenges are just as numerous, as they struggle to find the right school, the right support, the right path.
But now there’s hope. Differently Wired is a revolutionary book—weaving together personal stories and a tool kit of expert advice from author Deborah Reber, it’s a how-to, a manifesto, and a reassuring companion for parents who can so often feel that they have no place to turn.
At the heart of Differently Wired are 18 paradigm-shifting ideas—what the author calls “tilts,” which include how to accept and lean in to your role as a parent (#2: Get Out of Isolation and Connect). Deal with the challenges of parenting a differently wired child (#5: Parent from a Place of Possibility Instead of Fear). Support yourself (#11: Let Go of Your Impossible Expectations for Who You “Should” Be as a Parent). And seek community (#18: If It Doesn’t Exist, Create It).
Taken together, it’s a lifesaving program to shift our thinking and actions in a way that not only improves the family dynamic, but also allows children to fully realize their best selves.
“In this generous and urgent book, Deborah Reber lets the light in. She helps parents see that they’re not alone, and even better, delivers a positive action plan that will change lives.”—Seth Godin, author of Linchpin
“Differently Wired will help parents of children who think differently to accept their child for who they are and facilitate their successful development.”—Temple Grandin, author of Thinking in Pictures and The Autistic Brain
About the Author
Deborah Reber is a bestselling author, certified life coach, and speaker who has spent the past fifteen years writing inspiring books for women and teens. However, raising a twice-exceptional son and experiencing the heartaches, headaches, confusion, and unexpected gifts that is typical for parents raising these exceptional kids sparked a transformation in Debbie’s passion and led to a conscious shift from the realm of teen advocacy to the world of supporting the millions of parents who are raising unique kids. She launched TiLT Parenting - a website, podcast, and social media community - in April 2016, where she is building a community of supportive parents of neurodiverse children.
"In this generous and urgent book, Deborah lets the light in. She helps parents see that they're not alone, and even better, delivers a positive action plan that will change lives." —Seth Godin, author of Linchpin
"Raising a 'differently wired' kid can feel like venturing out in unfamiliar territory without a map or a guide. Deborah Reber is the friend you need to navigate this terrain—not just offering practical tips for parenting kids with autism, ADHD, dyslexia and other conditions, but helping you think about your child's atypical mind in ways that will enable you to help them unlock their unique potential. This is a bracingly honest, beautifully written, and quietly groundbreaking book." —Steve Silberman, author of NeuroTribes: The Legacy of Autism and the Future of Neurodiversity
“Differently Wired will help parents of children who think differently to accept their child for who they are and facilitate their successful development. —Temple Grandin, author of Thinking in Pictures and The Autistic Brain
"A valuable resource for parents, teachers, and family members of exceptional children of all types.” –Library Journal
“Differently Wired offers an insightful, compassionate framework for empowering parents to rethink how they view neurodiverse learners. Building on the premise that we should celebrate our children’s uniqueness instead of apologizing for it, Deborah Reber provides real tools and practical advice for parents to confidently support their child’s journey, not only at school but also at home and in life.” —Amanda Morin, writer/expert at Understood and author of The Everything Parent's Guide to Special Education
"Differently Wired is a comprehensive and practical approach to parenting a unique and complex population of children. Twice-exceptional children present parents with a plethora of challenges (and joys) which the author addresses with gusto. There are other titles written on this topic, but this in particular packs significant punch and is a 'must read' for all parents raising children with multiple exceptionalities." —Dr. Michael Postma, EdD, Executive Director of SENG (Supporting the Emotional Needs of the Gifted)
"Deborah Reber approaches the subject of raising a neurodiverse child with the diligence and depth of an investigative reporter and the passion (and compassion) of a parent-advocate, which she definitely is. This book offers parents a treasure trove of practical advice to help them advocate and navigate their personal journeys with their differently wired kids along the often challenging road less traveled.” —Tom Ropelewski, filmmaker, 2e: Twice Exceptional and 2e2: Teaching the Twice Exceptional
"Differently Wired is one mother’s clarion call for moving to action, based on a deep understanding of children who are neurodiverse, and therefore, who think, learn, and at times, behave differently. Debbie Reber provides practical advice on a broad range of topics that will be a treasure trove for parents who are desperately seeking guidance in understanding and best supporting their neurodiverse child. This is a wonderfully engaging and much needed book that I will enthusiastically recommend to so many parents and professionals I meet on a regular basis."
—Barry M. Prizant, PhD, CCC-SLP, author of Uniquely Human: A Different Way of Seeing Autism